Are You Failing Your Child?

Now that Noah is a month into kindergarten I amshapes and colors. It is also about being able to
happy to report that he loves it and is thriving.listen, observe, and remember. In addition to
Every morning he pops out of bed eager andlearning reading, writing and arithmetic, children are
ready to go to school. On the weekends helearning how to negotiate and survive a
actually misses school although he does enjoy thebureaucracy. Even kindergarten students will be
opportunity to sleep in. When I drop him off in theexpected to remember their teacher's name,
morning he quickly switches into school mode.their room number and location, their schedule,
When I pick him up at the end of the school dayand various other administrative miscellanea (for
he is excited to share all his news of the dayexample, a lunch code or bus number). The more
including what he learned, what happened in classa child can handle these details for herself the
and on the playground, and what he did with hismore confident she will be and the more
friends. He loves all his teachers and has madecomfortable with her school day. If she is familiar
many new friends.As I spend time in my son'swith the daily and weekly school schedule it simply
school and observe his peers I am sad to see aincreases her comfort level. It may seem
large group of youngsters who are not enjoyingoverwhelming but most kindergarten students
their school experience at all. While tears and panicquickly master the essentials they need to
are to be expected the first week of school it isnegotiate the day. The more parents work to
sad to see the tears continue after children havehelp and support children to master these skills
had weeks to adjust to a new way of life. Somethe more the child will succeed.Physical preparation
children get over their tears as the dayfor school is essential. Children who do not have
progresses but others continue to cry throughenough sleep cannot learn effectively and also
lunch and even throughout the day. My hearthave difficulty negotiating in the social atmosphere
goes out to these little ones who were notof school as well as have discipline problems.
emotionally prepared for school.It is alsoYoung, growing children need enough sleep to
troublesome to see how many children are notwake up rested and bright-eyed and ready to
mentally prepared for school. There are manyface the day. Children must also have proper
skills children should master before startingnutrition to learn. They need enough of the right
kindergarten that fall into these basic areas:kind of food (a balanced diet) to keep their bodies
cognitive skills, listening and sequencing, languagehealthy and growing. While fashion should not be a
skills, fine motor skills, social emotional skills, andmajor factor in kindergarten, children should wear
gross motor skills. See my article aboutclothing suitable to the outdoor weather as well as
kindergarten readiness at for morethe classroom activities they will engage in during
information.Finally, the worst cases are thethe day. Kindergarten students are often involved
children who are not physically prepared forin physical activities and should wear clothing
school. These children have not had enough sleep,suitable for running, dancing, and jumping as well
not had enough food, and are not wearing suitableas sitting on the floor or at a desk. Of course,
clothing. These children also are unable to takechildren should also be clean and neat to help build
care of themselves in the most fundamentaltheir confidence and lessen distractions.If you do
ways.Parents must prepare their children fornot do your best to prepare your child
school emotionally, mentally, and physically or theyemotionally, mentally and physically for school then
are setting up their children for failure. Childrenyou are failing your child and worse you are
who have not been prepared for the separationsetting your child up for failure. While early
from home and family and children who have notsuccess does not guarantee continued school
been prepared for the school day structure willsuccess, early failure can haunt a child's academic
have difficulty adjusting emotionally to school andrecord or worse set up a pattern of expectation
a negative experience can have long term effectsand behavior that child will be doomed to repeat
on the child's academic success. Work to buildthroughout his school life.Do not fail your child.
your child's confidence and self esteem so he isTake full advantage of your child's preschool
better equipped to venture out into the world onyears to prepare him for school and for life.
his own. Most children successfully transition intoKindergarten will be here sooner than you
kindergarten so it can be done and you shouldthink.Deanna Mascle shares more tips to help you
make it your goal for your child to start schoolprepare your child for school and life with her
with no tears.Mental preparation for school isnewsletter Preschoolers Learn More.
more than simply knowing letters, numbers,